As the owner of strip clubs on the East Coast and West, I have known thousands of topless dancers on a much more intimate level than a typical employer will come to know his or her employees. Understandably, when a girl takes her clothes off in front of another person night after night, when she stands naked before her boss, it’s not just her body that is exposed, she bares her emotions as well and, her whole psychological being opens up. She has less to hide and, therefore, in thousands of cases I have become the stripper’s confident and one of the most trusted persons in my employee’s life.

Every night of the week, I’ll hear scores of questions like “Herb, can I talk with you privately?” or “Herbie, dear, can you help me with this little problem?”  For more than fifteen years. I’ve been assisting thousands of dancers with whatever bothers them at the moment. To this day, years later, I’m receiving emails and phone calls from many girls I haven’t seen in ages but who are still asking for advice and help of some kind.

The easiest problems to resolve center on money. The complexities …